My husband and I have been together since I was 23, but we’ve known each other since I was 16. I’ve always thought I missed out on one thing—online dating. The idea of meeting someone for coffee and wondering how it would go always seemed so exciting.
SIDE NOTE – If you’re going on a first date, always pick coffee. It’s short, sweet, and easy to end if things don’t click—or leave on a high note if they do! (But to be honest, I haven’t been on a date in 16 years, so take that advice with a grain of salt.)
What seemed fun about online dating was seeing if people matched their profiles. It’s like solving a little puzzle. Do they seem the same in person as they did online? And can you figure out if there’s a connection worth exploring further?
A New Perspective on Meeting People
Recently, I realised something interesting. I was on my way to meet Cosi to see if she’d be a good fit for my D8 Training Podcast, and it hit me. This was like online dating but for work! I wasn’t looking for romance, but I was meeting someone new, chatting, and seeing if we connected. That same excitement I thought I’d missed? I was experiencing it, just in a different way.
It made me think: how many other times in my life have I felt like I missed out on something, only to realise I was already experiencing it in another form? Like meeting new parents at my kids’ school or making friends at work—it’s all about building connections.
Have You Ever Felt Like This?
Have you ever thought you were missing out on something, only to realise you didn’t appreciate what was right in front of you? Maybe it’s a big adventure, a dream job, or even a chance to make new friends. But what if you didn’t really miss out? What if you just didn’t notice what was already happening?
3 Easy Steps to Find the Good Stuff
#1 Think About What You’re Missing
Write down what you feel like you’ve missed out on. Is it travelling? Meeting new people? Having more fun?
For me, I often feel like I missed out on getting encouragement from my mum. Growing up, I felt I wasn’t good enough. Just the other day, I worked really hard to rearrange my plans to come earlier, but it still wasn’t enough for her. That really hurt.
#2 Look at What You Already Have
Ask yourself, “Am I already doing something similar in my life?” For example, if you miss travelling, maybe exploring your city can give you that same sense of adventure.
With my mum, I’ve realised she’ll always find something to complain about. Instead of letting that hurt me, I focus on the wonderful relationship I have with my daughter. She’s thriving, and we share so much love. I’ve learned what not to do as a parent, and that helps me build a better bond with her.
Related Article: Check out my article, “Take Back Control: Stop Playing the Victim and Transform Your Life!” to explore the three choices you always have in any situation and how to use them to create positive change.
#3 Find the Good Stuff
Be thankful for the great things in your life. Focus on what’s going well and what makes you happy. If it helps, set a new goal to work towards, like planning a special trip or trying something exciting.
When I think about my mum’s comments, they still sting. But instead of dwelling on the hurt, I choose to focus on gratitude. Her actions have taught me valuable lessons about the kind of mum I want to be for my daughter. I make a conscious effort to appreciate my daughter’s efforts rather than constantly finding fault. When she smiles, it reminds me how lucky I am to have her in my life, and it fills me with joy.
What About You?
Do you feel like you’ve missed out on something? Let’s talk about it in the comments! Share your story and let’s work on finding those silver linings together. 😊
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