My 9-year-old son, Jake, is the kind of kid who radiates happiness. He’s that kid with a cheeky grin permanently plastered on his face, always up for some banter or a silly joke. It’s like he’s unlocked the secret to living his best life, it’s a vibe I aspire to but haven’t quite mastered yet (minus the silly boy humour, of course).
The other day, out of sheer curiosity, I asked him, “Jake, what makes you happy?” And let me tell you—his answer completely floored me. It wasn’t what I expected, but it was exactly what I needed to hear.
Before I share his wisdom, let’s pause. What makes you happy? Have a think. Is it something within your control, or does it depend on external factors? Do you pin your happiness on big milestones—like losing 10 kilos, getting a promotion, or buying your dream car—or is it rooted in the little moments, like a warm hug, a morning coffee, or a walk in the fresh air?
Jake’s answer wasn’t about winning, material things, or people being nice to him—none of the typical external stuff we often rely on for happiness. His list was refreshingly simple and pure: playing soccer, cuddling with Mum (cue heart-melting moment), running around outside, reading a book, playing with Marley (our dog), taking shots at his soccer goals, or stepping into the role of goalkeeper. It was all about the little joys that are right within his reach.
And you know what? It’s true. He can head outside, kick a few goals, and come back inside absolutely buzzing with joy. Or he’ll sit quietly patting Marley, and you can literally see his happiness lighting him up. No conditions, no complicated strings attached. Just pure joy in the moment.
Meanwhile, I realised that I often tie my happiness to conditions. For example, after dinner, I feel “happy” only if the dishes are done, the kitchen is spotless, and the living room looks like it belongs in a magazine spread. But Jake’s response made me rethink everything.
What if I flipped the script? What if I found happiness in the process instead of waiting for the “perfect” outcome? Now, instead of stressing over a clean kitchen, I focus on the joy of having my kids help me tidy up (even if it’s not perfect). I feel grateful for the nutritious meal we just ate and the home we’ve built together. And guess what? I feel happier—not later, but right now.
So, what about you? What makes you happy? Is it something big and far off, or can you find it right here in the small, simple things?
Here’s your challenge: Take a page out of Jake’s book and make a list of the little things that bring you joy. Then, go out and experience one of them today. And if you’re feeling inspired, drop a comment and share your happiness list—I’d love to hear what lights you up! 🌟
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